Not every relationship will lead to a fairytale ending

1251AM

"Dhoby Ghaut station !!" the annoying but familiar recorded announcement blared through the speakers of the MRT I happen to be riding in.. In came a tall, lanky girl initially expressionless.. "Beep, beep" again another familiar SMS noise from the source of her handphone brought about a nice tender, sweet grin/smile on her face..'Could it be her stead, is it her honeymoon period, or maybe just a message from a crush or soon-to-be boyfriend?' was running through my mind..

Walking through Fareast Plaza and Orchard Road. Sighted countless of couples (flings maybe?) holding hands, hugging and kissing in public. Love is in the Air !! It is everywhere, in your bedroom, on the telephone, dining table, and even more so in public..

The above 2 paragraphs are classic examples of how Love can be so wonderful. Not that I purposely go out to look at girls or notice how couples behave, but simply just a observence to pacify my survey on the topic of 'Love'. Opposite of happiness = sorrows. Now for the bad news.

"I Love you but I cannot be with you", "F##k Off, I don't want to be with you", "You are the worst guy/gal I ever met", "From today onwards don't call me anymore". It can be sad sometimes but these are phrases I commonly hear..

Couples quarreling on the streets, sometimes resulting in violence, shoving, pushing and slapping are not un-commong sightings. "Take care, after today I will not answer your call" after a one night stand is another..

I sympathise their heart of sorrows and understand the tears in their eyes as they stood there motionless/expressionless as if the world has just came to an end. I can bet when couples get together for the first few times, many thoughts would be running through their minds. 'Is he/her serious' in this relationship?' 'Would we last long? Or is it just a few days/weeks/mnths affair?' 'Are we compatible with each other?' 'Is he/her just flinging/flirting/scandaling with me?'

Sad to say, getting into a relationship is like riding a rocky and unstable boat. It is and never will be smooth sailing. The trick is to be able to hold each other's hands and ride through the storm together, piloting and navigating the boat to its ultimate destination which will lead to the land of 'Happiness'.

Unfortunately, most cannot 'Believe' and ride the storm together. How do you expect to make it through the huge tidal waves and avoid collision with rock stones if the 'Two hands cannot clap' ? Constant arguments, quarrels and different opinions will lead to one trying to steer left, the other steer right. Thus, both drowning in the deep ocean sea. Helpless and lost, calling out to someone to save them from their situations but nobody to the rescue.

Sadly, my relationship has ended up the latter way..However I have a form of 'Rescue' from a consolation email sent to me from my good Bro Thomas.. Here's the extract..

-From Thomas

hey bro, i have just finishing reading ur blog...?erm..also duno how to advise you.. here is a piece of advice: when dealing with the blow of an unwanted breakup, u've 2 look carefully at the person who broke up with you as well as reflecting on yourself. If you are radically honest, you will notice a dozens of ways that you deserve something better. At the very minimum, u can concentrate on ur studies and have the freedom that some ppl envy----"SINGLE & AVAILABLE" ... Once upon a time u r falling in love but not every relationship can hav a fairytale ending...so juz move on ... maybe God has something better in mind. A great love is not juz all about being together for the rest of ur life but is when she starts telling u that she want a different lifestyle , and you can still smile and find the courage to say "I'm happy for you." i belive u had this "courage" after i met u at YCK. At least u wasn't like me, at that point of time when the person i love most initiate a breakup, i almost fall apart... everyday "**censored**" until like a living corpse. Maybe i was juz finding an excuse for playing--HAha, anyway u did not do this type of nonsense.?At least u still have many wonderful memories to accompany u, mine was only filled with painful times, some memories are worthy to be treasure as for those painful 1, just leave it behind and carry on with your life. C'mon lei, you are still young...there was no need for a "sprint" still can "jog" and see who was the one most suitable for you?i belive u can and will evetually get out of her shadow. Don't think so much & stays positive... : )

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Firstly, I would like to thank you for your words of encouragement. Yes to let go does not necessary mean you are a coward, but a sign that you are strong enough to let go and move on in life.. How true those words and I applaud you for your maturity in respect to relationships..If I was radically honest, I would say it was probably more of my fault than hers. But I wouldnt like to comment on who's right and who's wrong in a relationship. There's never one party at fault, it always take 2 hands to clap. Your sentence 'Once upon a time u r falling in love but not every relationship can hav a fairytale ending' is the perfect phrase to summarise the title of this topic !!

I understand what you are going through at the moment, something much worse than what I'm goin through. But I'm thankful and grateful that you've learnt to accept, trust and believe in God that he can do miracles for you and he WILL do miracles in your life if you just believe and accept.. Also, I noticed a growing maturity in you since that day I met you in YCK. Perhaps, like me, we have to learn our lessons the hard and painful way. At the end of the day, it will be a good and worthy lesson for us. May the Good Lord bless you.

And some words to Huiling, may you be blessed too with a successful career and find your true happiness sooner rather than later..It was unfortunate we couldn't ride the storm together and our ship sank, but hey, there's always a lifebelt thrown by the rescue team. Let's pick it up, paddle our way slowly back to the shore where a new beginning, a new chapter in our lives awaits us...

-Geoffrey signing off with peace @ 0151am